Soothing pain with stronger pain

When you are hurting from the betrayal of infidelity you can only find comfort in seeing the positives in your life. I am not referring to the good that might come out of your spouse's affair because many times it is not possible to look at the glass half full. The positives in your life that you can actually perceive while in deep pain from infidelity are strong positive feelings for your loved ones who have never betrayed you.

If you have children, think of the parents who have lost a child to an illness or a terrible accident or abduction. The level of pain caused by such events immediately helps position your pain at a somehow lower intensity. You will still hurt but you will know that it is not the absolute worst pain of all. There is greater suffering in losing those who love you unconditionally.

If you don't have children, be grateful for your loyal pet, neighbour, relative, friend or mentor who is always there for you. Think of the pain you would feel if you lost them to death or even to having to move away from where you currently live. Think of those who don't have anyone or who have lost supportive companions like the ones mentioned above.

Soothing excruciating pain with the thought of greater pain has worked for me when I feel stuck in my whirlwind of misery. Let me know if it helps you.

Cheers to healing,

Helen

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