Enjoying the rainbow after the storm

It's been six and a half years since I discovered my husband of twenty two and a half years was having an affair. I stopped writing here once the posts became more of the same. There is a limited amount of rationalisation that can be organised into posts and books. 

What has not ceased to surprise me, is the non-stop consumption of this written material by betrayed spouses. I feel sad for I know how much pain infidelity causes and I feel happy that sharing my experience can help someone find a little bit of peace. 

There are so many resources shared in this blog and in the books. There is also the podcast for you to listen while you drive or jog or move around the house, like a free audio book. All under the titles of Sailing through or beyond or just sailing infidelity. 

Today I got a comment on one of the very first posts I wrote here. Liz was wondering how it feels so many years past DDay. 

My answer is that after around year 5, it doesn't hurt as it did at the beginning. I came to terms with my decision to give my remorseful husband a second chance. My friends who divorced or separated had also advanced along their own paths. That gave me a range of options of what could have been. 

We are all different. 

In my case, I grew through the pain and recovery and I am still sorting my relationship with people in my circle of friends and extended family. I am strong, I am happy and I want to Carpe diem.

My husband is still very much in my life, as a life partner and a lover. We are doing great. 

I hope you are not in too much pain. I hope you know you will feel better soon and that YOU have the power to make yourself happy. If Edith Eger could and Viktor Frankl, you can too. 

Breathe in, be grateful for this breath, feel your heart. You can do it. 

Blessings and love,

Helen